Being soft hearted

Everytime we have a problem in life, we say.. ok. enuff now. i am not going to let any person or situation affect my life. if it was my mistake, i let my heart be played with.. but no more. now nothing can affect me.
even i would react in a similar way. and then we get occupied in doing things which would make us stone hearted slowly.

Thats however not how its meant to me. looking at the reater goal, understanding and eventually reaching god, i learned today that it is a devotee's first quality to be soft hearted, since only then can the god and the sensitivity needed to understand god, in his heart, be alive.

So i decided that no more attempts to make myself strong and strong enough to be unaffected by emotions. its ok to have emotions. its ok not to be hurt and its ok to be affected by them since only if one has a soft heart will one be able to understand the immense love we should offer to god and the immense love he will offer in return.